but i have no way to really tell my coach this...not that i know of at least...and so the hours my players are getting is out of my control...which when a game takes stuff out of your control (things that should be managable by you...it is a manager game after all)
there are ways:  you can choose between 4 diffrent aproaches for your coach (strictly follow chart, let coach decide,...)
as for your starter playing too many minutes:  try this:  put your back up as starter, then tell your coach to decide , see what happens... 

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